Allah\u2019\u0131n insanlara verdi\u011fi bir\u00e7ok nimet vard\u0131r. Konu\u015fma nimeti ise insan\u0131 di\u011fer canl\u0131lardan ay\u0131ran vas\u0131flar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda gelir. \u0130nsan\u0131n vasf-\u0131 m\u00fcmeyyizi olan konu\u015fma nimeti, di\u011fer nimetlerde de oldu\u011fu gibi, rast gele kullan\u0131lmamal\u0131, belirli k\u0131staslar i\u00e7erisinde konu\u015fma adab\u0131na riayet edilmelidir. Konu\u015fma adab\u0131n\u0131 \u201cNe s\u00f6yledi\u011fine ve hangi zamanda s\u00f6yledi\u011fine dikkat et.\u201d diye en sade \u015fekilde \u00f6zetleyen Hazreti Ebu Bekir Efendimiz\u2019in bu s\u00f6z\u00fc bizim i\u00e7in mihenk ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. Nerde konu\u015fmak, ne zaman susmak, ne s\u00f6ylemek, neyi s\u00f6ylememek ve bunlar\u0131 yapabilmenin
pratik usullerini sizin i\u00e7in yedi maddede toplad\u0131k.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00d6ncelikle konu\u015fman\u0131n z\u0131dd\u0131 olan susmak, en g\u00fczel huylardand\u0131r. \u00c2fiyet ve sel\u00e2metin onda dokuzu susmaktad\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na gelen bel\u00e2lar \u00e7ok konu\u015fmas\u0131 sebebiyledir. S\u00fcleyman aleyhisselam \u201cE\u011fer konu\u015fmak g\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f ise susmak alt\u0131nd\u0131r.\u201d buyurmu\u015ftur. Peygamber Efendimiz (s.a.v.)de \u201c\u00c7ok konu\u015fan\u0131n hatas\u0131 \u00e7ok olur, hatas\u0131 \u00e7ok olan\u0131n g\u00fcn\u00e2h\u0131 da \u00e7ok olur, g\u00fcn\u00e2h\u0131 \u00e7ok olan kimseye de ate\u015f daha l\u00e2y\u0131k olur.\u201d buyurmu\u015flard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fazla konu\u015fmak, tekrar\u0131nda fayda olmayan \u015feyleri tekrar etmek ve l\u00fczumundan fazla konu\u015fmakt\u0131r. Faydas\u0131 olmayan \u015feyleri konu\u015farak vakit zayi edilmemelidir. \u0130nsan \u00f6mr\u00fcnden hesaba \u00e7ekilecektir. Res\u00fblull\u00e2h (s.a.v.); \u201cKi\u015finin faydas\u0131z \u015feyleri terk etmesi, onun m\u00fcsl\u00fcmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fczelli\u011findendir.\u201d yine ba\u015fka bir hadisinde \u201cDilini fazla konu\u015fmaktan tutan ve mal\u0131n\u0131n fazlas\u0131n\u0131 inf\u00e2k eden kimseye m\u00fcjdeler olsun.\u201d buyurdular.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Konu\u015fman\u0131n ortas\u0131; az s\u00f6zle maksad\u0131n\u0131 gizlemeyen, \u00e7ok s\u00f6zle muh\u00e2tab\u0131n\u0131 usand\u0131rmayand\u0131r. H\u0131z\u0131r (a.s.), M\u00fbs\u00e2 (a.s.)\u2019a bu hususta: \u201cEy M\u00fbs\u00e2, dinleyen s\u00f6yleyenden daima fazla usan\u0131r ve yorulur. Konu\u015ftu\u011funda muh\u00e2tab\u0131na b\u0131kk\u0131nl\u0131k verecek kadar s\u00f6z\u00fc uzatma. Hem \u015furas\u0131n\u0131 da iyi bil ki; kalbin bir kap gibidir. Onun i\u00e7ine koyaca\u011f\u0131n \u015feyleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn de koy.\u201d der.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ki\u015fi, do\u011fru veya yanl\u0131\u015f her duydu\u011fu \u015feyi s\u00f6ylememelidir. M\u00fcsl\u00fcman, tehlike g\u00f6rse bile do\u011fruyu s\u00f6yler, yalan konu\u015fmaz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc do\u011fru s\u00f6ylemekte tehlikelerden kurtulu\u015f vard\u0131r. Kurtulu\u015f do\u011frulukta, hel\u00e2k olmak ise yalandad\u0131r. Peygamber Efendimiz (s.a.v.) \u201cDuydu\u011fu her \u015feyi s\u00f6ylemesi, ki\u015fiye g\u00fcnah olarak yeter.\u201d ve \u201cKim ki, yalan s\u00f6ylemeyi ve yalanla amel etmeyi b\u0131rakmazsa, All\u00e2h\u00fc Te\u00e2l\u00e2 o kimsenin yemeyi, i\u00e7meyi b\u0131rakmas\u0131na, orucuna bir k\u0131ymet vermez.\u201d buyurmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir insan i\u00e7in b\u00fct\u00fcn ilimleri bilmek imk\u00e2ns\u0131zd\u0131r. \u0130\u015f b\u00f6yle olunca baz\u0131 \u015feyleri bilmemek bir eksiklik de\u011fildir. Peygamber Efendimiz (s.a.v.) bir had\u00ees-i \u015fer\u00eeflerinde \u201cKendine bir meseleden sorulup da bilmedi\u011fi h\u00e2lde fetv\u00e2 veren kimse hem sap\u0131k hem de sapt\u0131rand\u0131r.\u201d buyurmu\u015flard\u0131r. Hz. Ali (k.v.): \u201cSize bir \u015fey sorulup da bilemedi\u011finiz zaman \u2018Bilmiyorum, Allah bilir.\u2019 cevab\u0131n\u0131 vermeniz kalb ve vicd\u00e2na ne kadar ho\u015f gelir. Z\u00e2ten \u00e2lim; bilmediklerinin bildiklerinden \u00e7ok oldu\u011funu bilendir, \u0130bn-i Abbas radiyaallahum\u00e2, \u201cBilmiyorum demeyi terk eden \u00e2lim, bel\u00e2s\u0131n\u0131 bulmu\u015f demektir.\u201d der. Baz\u0131 \u00e2limler ise \u201cBilmiyorum diyen, noksan\u0131n\u0131 bilip \u00e7al\u0131\u015fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fa \u00e2lim olur, fakat bilmedi\u011fi halde biliyorum d\u00e2v\u00e2s\u0131nda bulunan, fel\u00e2ket \u00e7ukuruna d\u00fc\u015fer.\u201d demi\u015flerdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00fcn\u00e2ka\u015fa ve m\u00fcc\u00e2deleden uzak durmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bunlar d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n anahtar\u0131d\u0131r. Peygamber Efendimiz (s.a.v.) \u201cKim hakl\u0131 oldu\u011fu h\u00e2lde m\u00fcn\u00e2ka\u015fay\u0131 terk ederse cennetin en \u00fcst derecesinde onun i\u00e7in bir k\u00f6\u015fk yap\u0131l\u0131r. Kim de haks\u0131z oldu\u011fu h\u00e2lde m\u00fcn\u00e2ka\u015fay\u0131 terk ederse onun i\u00e7in cennetin kenar\u0131nda bir k\u00f6\u015fk yap\u0131l\u0131r.\u201d buyurmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Konu\u015fma adab\u0131na riayet eden ki\u015fi g\u0131ybet etmez. G\u0131ybet, ki\u015finin ba\u015fka birisi hakk\u0131nda, duydu\u011funda ho\u015flanmayaca\u011f\u0131 \u015feyleri o ki\u015fi yan\u0131nda yok iken a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a, kin\u00e2ye yoluyla veya i\u015f\u00e2retle s\u00f6ylemesidir. Peygamber Efendimiz (s.a.v.) buyurmu\u015ftur ki: \u201cBilir misiniz, g\u0131ybet nedir?\u201d Allah ve res\u00fbl\u00fc daha iyi bilir, dediklerinde \u201cKarde\u015fini, ho\u015flanmayaca\u011f\u0131 bir \u015fey ile anmand\u0131r.\u201d buyurdu. \u201cYa s\u00f6yledi\u011fim karde\u015fimde varsa?\u2026\u201d denildi\u011finde ise \u201cE\u011fer s\u00f6yledi\u011fin onda varsa g\u0131ybet etmi\u015f olursun ve e\u011fer s\u00f6yledi\u011fin onda yoksa o vakit ona iftir\u00e2 etmi\u015f olursun.\u201d buyurdu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
S\u00f6vmek ve \u00e7irkin s\u00f6z s\u00f6ylemek de adaba riayet eden ki\u015finin huyu de\u011fildir. Peygamber Efendimiz (s.a.v.) \u201cK\u00f6t\u00fc ve \u00e7irkin s\u00f6z cef\u00e2d\u0131r, cef\u00e2 ise cehennemdedir.\u201d \u201cMuhakkak Allah \u00e7irkin ve k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6ze bu\u011fzeder.\u201d buyurdular. All\u00e2h\u2019\u0131n yaratt\u0131klar\u0131ndan -canl\u0131, cans\u0131z- hi\u00e7bir \u015feye l\u00e2net etmez, l\u00e2net etmeyi al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k h\u00e2line getirmez. Res\u00fblullah (s.a.v.) Efendimiz \u015f\u00f6yle buyurdular:
\u201cKul bir \u015feye lanet etti\u011fi vakit, bu lanet g\u00f6\u011fe y\u00fckselir, y\u00fckselince de g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcn kap\u0131lar\u0131 kendisine kapan\u0131r. Sonra bu lanet yery\u00fcz\u00fcne iner. Yery\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fcn de b\u00fct\u00fcn kap\u0131lar\u0131 kendisine kapan\u0131r. Bundan sonra sa\u011fa d\u00f6ner, sola d\u00f6ner, \u00e7\u0131kar yol bulamay\u0131nca, (sonunda) lanet edilmi\u015f olan kimseye d\u00f6ner. Bu kimse buna l\u00e2y\u0131k ise, i\u015f tamamd\u0131r; de\u011filse, lanet edenin kendisine d\u00f6ner.\u201d buyurmu\u015flard\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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